Makes You Think Archive

Sometimes you just need to ask an expert

Friday, February 19th, 2010 by Kim Bolsover

Sometimes you just need to ask an expertOver the years, I have managed to kill off at least half a dozen perfectly innocent basil plants.

1. The first one died because I planted it in the garden.

A friend with green fingers told me that in cold, icy Britain that is tantamount to murder as even a light frost will kill off a basil plant.

So I bought a replacement and a nice pot and put it on my kitchen window sill.

2. The second one died because I forgot to water it.

Another gardening friend told me that basil plants need watering regularly.

3. The third one died because I overwatered it.

I decided to water the 4th just once a fortnight, regardless of whether it looked ‘a bit droopy’ or ‘absolutely fine’.

4. The fourth one died because I didn’t water it enough.

I decided to water the 5th once a week, regardless of what state it was in.

5. The fifth one died - need I explain?

I decided to water the 6th one when it clearly looked ‘in need of watering’.

6. The sixth one died because I had no idea what the difference is between ‘in need of water’ and ‘on its last legs’.

I didn’t buy a 7th.

I decided that I was utterly useless at growing plants, gave myself a good clip round the ear, and gave up.

Salvation was just around the corner

Then one day, I was saved from my own stupidity.

I called on a friend who lives, eats and breathes gardening. Her garden is so beautiful; she’s always digging this, pruning that, planting the other. If she doesn’t know the name of a plant or what to do with it, she gets out every gardening book known to man and researches until she’s found the experts’ answer to her problem. Consequently, her plants flourish because she knows just how to treat them.

This was the friend who had told me to grow my basil plant indoors and, true to her word, on her kitchen window sill was the most gorgeous, lush green basil plant I’d ever seen.

As she put the kettle on and while telling me about her latest purchase of a fabulous new winter coat, she began to water the basil plant. I watched transfixed as she gently grasped the stem of the plant, lifted it completely out of its pot, put a little water in the bottom and replaced the plant.

“So you don’t water basil from the top?” I asked, feeling a right uneducated banana whilst I said it.

“Oh no,” she said. “You need to feed it from its roots. Let the plant pull what water it needs up from the bottom of the pot and, in an hour or so, empty out what it hasn’t used.”

One tiny, simple tip solved my huge, unsolveable problem

All my plants died purely and simply because I didn’t take the time to find out how to water a basil plant properly. If I’d bothered to ask someone who really knew that, ‘Watering from the top kills it. Watering from the bottom makes it flourish,’ none of those poor innocents need have died.

I should be flogged from here to the moon.

Needless to say, my 7th basil plant is the healthiest I’ve ever had. We’ve been together for nearly 3 months now and he’s lush, green, happy and healthy. Last night his succulent, fragrant leaves helped transform our pasta supper dish into something quite heavenly and I’m salivating already at the thought of tomorrow’s lunch of mozzarella cheese and sliced beef tomatoes garnished with basil leaves - all from my very own, properly-watered plant!

And all I had to do was consult an expert

I’d have saved lots and lots of time, money, energy and guilt.

Funny but…

… this sounds a bit like what happened when I had my colours ‘done’ by an expert all those hundreds of years ago….


 


The Story of the Two Wolves

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010 by Kim Bolsover

One day an old Native American grandfather was talking to his grandson.

He said, “There are two wolves fighting inside all of us - the wolf of fear and hate, and the wolf of love and peace.”

The grandson listened, then looked up at his grandfather and asked, “Which one will win?”

The grandfather replied, “The one we feed.”

 


Be Who You Really Are

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010 by Kim Bolsover

I had to laugh when I read this week that blondes are more aggressive than brunettes or redheads. The findings of a study on students in California found that “Fair-haired women, whether natural or out of a bottle, display a warlike streak when fighting battles to get their own way.”

As I have been a bottle blonde for about a year now, I was naturally rather intrigued by this potentially worrying suggestion and, for one moment of complete stupidity, I even wondered if it was true!

What a dipstick I am, and the only reasonable way to deal with this appalling lapse of judgement is to laugh out loud!

Apparently, researchers found that even women who dyed their hair blonde quickly took on the attributes of those who were naturally blonde. Let me tell you something; I went blonde overnight in January last year and, one full year further on, I am still as bad at confrontation as I ever was. Give me the choice of fighting a battle head on and running away and I will always leg it!

This study was based on a mere 156 students who were concentrated in one very small area of just one country out of the entire world only so before you go trying to live up to the results of this ’scientific’ research, consider first how old you are, the culture in which you live, what you have to do to put bread on the table, how you normally fight your battles and, most importantly, if you ever actually GET your own way!

My advice? Whatever your hair, skin or eye colour, be who you really, really are and you’ll be just fine!

 


Dust if you must

Monday, January 18th, 2010 by Kim Bolsover

I used to spend at least 8 hours every weekend making sure things were just  perfect - ‘in case someone came over’. Finally I realised one day that no-one ‘came over.’ They were all out living life and having fun!

Now, when people visit I don’t have to explain the ‘condition’ of my home. They are more interested in hearing about the things I’ve been doing while I was out living life and having fun.

Consider for a moment:

  • A layer of dust protects the wood beneath it
  • A house becomes a home when you can write ‘I love you’ on the furniture

Dust If You Must

Dust if you must but wouldn’t it be better
to paint a picture or write a letter,
bake a cake, lick the spoon, plant a seed?
Ponder the difference between want and need?

Dust if you must but there’s not much time
with rivers to swim and mountains to climb,
wine to drink, music to hear, books to read,
friends to cherish and a life to lead. 

Dust if you must, but the world’s out there
with the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair,
a flutter of snow, a shower of rain.
This day will never come around again.  

Dust if you must, but bear in mind
old age will come and it’s not kind.
And when you go - and go you must, 
you, yourself, will make more dust!  

It’s not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived.